Hidden Valley Road by Robert Kolker

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When Don and Mimi Galvin started out, they believed they’d have a family like any other. While Don began his career in the Air Force and continued to be involved in government in an advisory role, Mimi took to her role as matriarch and could not be convinced, even at risk to her health, to not continue to have more babies. Even when she had to have noticed that her two older sons were constantly in conflict, that the younger ones were often casualties in these conflicts, her denial about their situation was stronger than her will to continue until she had given birth to ten sons and two daughters. Tragically, what was more unusual about this family was that six of the ten sons would go on to develop severe mental illness, most characterized as schizophrenia. The trauma that each family member experienced because of this was unspeakable, but was also a source of important medical information that would inform the small advances in the study of this devastating disease.

This non-fiction story provides a fascinating peek into a family plagued by mental illness in an order of magnitude that, to my mind, is incomprehensible. We are given an inside perspective not only on how an individual with schizophrenia suffers, but also how deeply those around these souls suffer as well. And while we learn of the onset and progression of each of the sons with the condition, we are also given the historical perspective on the attitudes toward and the treatment of this disease; one that has seen some progress but not nearly as much as one would hope for given all the time that has passed since this family (and so many others) have been studied. And we see how often the treatments are almost as harmful to these patients as the disease itself.

The writing here is quite good. In telling the story of this complicated family, there are many anecdotes that engage the reader and create an almost novel-like vibe to the book. Many times there are direct quotes from the family, as they have been interviewed extensively about their experiences. But there is also quite a bit of science, explained and simplified – but never dumbed down – to make it accessible to the common reader.

I believe this is an important read; one that explains the horror and the mystery around this complex and devastating disease. We all have a connection to those with mental health issues and I believe it is our duty to try to understand them, to become as knowledgable about them as we can, and to have compassion for those who suffer the most from having or living with those who have them.

Yesteryear by Caro Claire Burke

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Natalie has created a perfect life – or at least this is what is projected on her viral Instagram presence. She is living off the fruit of the land, on a farm in Idaho with her beautiful husband and their many beautiful children, the two of them just living the simple all-American, Christian life. What is off-camera, is her large staff, those who are actually raising her children, homeschooling them, working the farm, and doing the work she is only pictured doing. One shocking day, Natalie wakes up and finds herself on a homestead that appears to be her home. It looks like her farm, but it is without any of the comforts she’s grown accustomed to – more like the farm that would have been present in the 19th century. Even the children are different. Where did her life go? As we hear from the Natalie in current times vs the one who finds herself back in time, we slowly learn how she came to be the person she is. And it’s not pretty…

This is an incredibly creative, sardonic commentary on social media – its influencers and bots and the falsehoods we come to believe. I am inclined to say that this is an extreme example, but I’m not even sure that is true. Natalie embodies the ultimate influencer: she has researched what folks become addicted to and finds her way to employ and monetize it. But she does this at the expense of losing her real life: she misses important moments with her children (except for those that are filmed), she misses moments for herself, and she misses finding a partner in life she actually loves and respects. Her whole life is a show, a photo op, a performance – but none of it is real. And the ones who suffer for it are everyone around her, but particularly her children.

I love the irony created when her husband, Caleb, becomes entrenched in absurd conspiracy theories on his social media sites. Natalie believes he is an idiot for believing any of it even while she is creating content that is similarly misleading. And all of it, Natalie’s and Caleb’s, is in the name of celebrating White, Christian values and preparing for the “big civil war” that is inevitable – even while this hate and this venom eats away at both of them from the inside.

I think this novel is thought-provoking, clever, and innovative – and has a powerful, cautionary message. I can see why it has become so popular and is on so many recommended lists.

The River is Waiting by Wally Lamb

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Corby is admittedly struggling. Ever since he lost his job, his wife has been working regularly while he has taken on the role of homemaker for his toddler twins, Niko and Maisie. He has tried to find work, but has not been successful, and after many rejections, has essentially given up. But while he maintains the appearance of continuing to search, he also copes through the use of alcohol and a bit of an uptick in his anxiety medication as well. One morning, as he is preparing to bring his children to their grandmother’s house, a horrific accident occurs that turns Corby’s life into a living hell.

Wally Lamb has never shied away from difficult topics, and this novel is the perfect example of this. To be responsible for the loss of one’s child and then have to pay penance – to other family members, to society, and to oneself – is the ultimate worst case scenario, in my opinion. This is what Corby must come to terms with. And with the crisp, honest, and gritty writing that Lamb utilizes, with most of the narrative coming in the voice of Corby himself, we live his hell along with him.

What is remarkable is the likability of Corby’s character. He has done something horrible, for sure, but not intentionally. And he takes full responsibility for his actions, which garners our respect. He also earns the respect of those around him, with the exception of the few cruel officers who have something to prove. He is able to care for a few of his fellow inmates in a way that sometimes puts his own safety at risk, and yet we understand when he loses hope at times as well.

This is a powerful read, but definitely not for the feint of heart. It is emotional, even brutal in places – but it also is insightful and meaningful as well.

Euphoria by Lily King

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It is early 1930’s and Nell and Fen are newly married and working together on researching the various tribes of New Guinea. Well, perhaps working together is being a bit generous, as Nell has an overwhelming curiosity about the gender roles of the tribes and has embedded herself into their cultures with ease. She has also been more productive than Fen, having published a now world-renowned manuscript that has brought her quite a bit of fame. Even their friend, Andrew Bankson, a fellow anthropologist and self-doubter, can see that this has created jealousy on the part of Fen. Could this be how Bankson can work his way into Nell’s favor? Or might this be just a disaster waiting to happen?

This novel pours historical fiction and fascinating anthropologic hypotheses into a triangulated love story. While we learn about the cultures that Nell, in particular, is studying, how she integrates into their society and records details of their cultures, we also feel the palpable admiration and tenderness that Bankson feels towards Nell, even as Fen appears to ignore her. Meanwhile, as Nell learns about the more open attitudes of these more isolated cultures toward sex, she feels a kinship with them in many ways.

There is quite a bit to unpack here, and I believe bookclubs will have a field day with this one. I would not be able to do it justice in this blog, and so I will not try. But I do recommend this book highly, as I feel it has so much depth, both in the character structure and in the many ideas that the three scientists bat around. The plot develops quite subtly and one might believe they know where it leads, but they would likely be surprised.

Not quite a MUST READ, but close!

Heart of a Stranger by Angela Buchdahl

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Born to a Korean mother and an Ashkenazi Jewish father, Angela feels caught between their two worlds. Is she truly Jewish, as her Reform synagogue has considered her? Is she not really Jewish as she’s been accused of by Orthodox acquaintances? Having been raised in an open, inclusive congregation in Tacoma, Washington where she was one of very few Jews, she identifies as very Jewish and early on felt her calling as a rabbi. Women had just begun to be ordained the year she was born, at least in the Reform movement, and her experiences as a Jewish song leader in her summer camp and in the religious school at her temple, as well as her close fellowship with her rabbi and first mentor, impacted her feeling of purpose. Along the way, she encountered many obstacles as well as much encouragement, and with all of this has gained much fame as the first Korean, woman rabbi and the spiritual leader of one of the largest congregations in the Jewish world.

In more ways than one, Rabbi Angela Buchdahl is an unlikely rabbi. According to traditional Jewish law, which defines being Jewish without conversion through one’s matrilineal line, Angela would not be considered to be Jewish by Jews outside of the Reform Movement. In fact, many have questioned her identity as a Jew, at least before she did undergo a more official conversion (although still others would not recognize her Reform conversion, which is, in my opinion, unfair). Meanwhile, her most formative experiences were always spiritually Jewish. Even as a teen, she attached the newest, most joyful tunes to familiar prayers and shared them with youth both at her summer camp and in her community. While in Israel on a summer program, she inhaled the religious guidance from the many mentors she found (even while digesting the rejections she also met) and this and other experiences solidified her mission to pursue the rabbinate.

Interspersed within her story, Rabbi Buchdahl also shares words of Torah. Between each chapter, she shares her and others’ interpretations of various. relevant phrases from the Scripture, enhancing their meaning and tying them to what she has experienced/discussed. This not only provides an unusual reading experience, but also highlights her insight, sensitivity, and wisdom.

I am also impressed with how flexible and supportive her mother has been. While her mother treasured her Korean culture and background, staying close with her family and spending her life helping Korean and other immigrants in their settlement to this country in so many ways, she also allowed her daughter to find her own path to a spiritual life. She always encouraged her in spite of being concerned about the many obstacles she foresaw and worried about. She was always proud of her daughter’s accomplishments.

This is an important memoir in many ways. It demonstrates that Jews can have many identities, whether being of color, of mixed race, or coming from unusual backgrounds and experiences. It demonstrates that women can achieve high levels of leadership that don’t necessitate compromising their personal lives. It demonstrates that Jews of all demographic backgrounds and denominations can achieve success in inspiring others to find religious fulfillment.

The Calamity Club by Kathryn Stockett

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Birdie: It’s early 1930’s, and the Great Depression has hit Mississippi quite hard. Birdie considers herself lucky that she has a job, tedious and underpaid as it is. She has pretty much resigned herself to her single life, living at home with her Mama even as her younger sister has already flown the coup and gotten herself married, informing the family only after the fact. When circumstances become financially dire for Birdie and her Mama, she is encouraged to visit her now wealthier sister to ask for a loan. When she finds her sister and sees the reality of her life there, Birdie finds life can be challenging in ways she’d never dreamed of.

Meg: Being eleven years old at an orphanage during the Depression is hard, but never as hard as when the head of the establishment, the “esteemed” Garnett Pittman, just seems to have it out for you. Having been deserted by her mother two years prior, she continues to have dreams about her mother returning, which her best friend insists she must let go. But since she’s been exiled to a dreary, windowless room to herself all day, leaving only for meals and sleep, she can hardly be expected not to fantasize about her Mama. What else does she have to do? It is only when a new volunteer comes to work on the books for the orphanage and shows her a bit of kindness that she imagines she may have a future other than what Garnett has planned for her.

This is an incredibly beautiful story about women, their limited choices, and the lengths to which people will go for those they love. Written by the author of The Help, this novel is animated by the vernacular, the color, the beauty and the darkness of the South in the 1930’s. I listened to this on audiobook and found it utterly absorbing and entertaining, enjoying the lovely accents, rich characters and wonderfully snarky dialogue. As each of the histories of the main characters are gradually revealed, there is also a sense of horror at the evil inclinations of some and the victimization of many. Women at the time were particularly vulnerable, and those few with power did not always use that power for good.

But we root for these two characters – and many others – as we come to know their kindness, their sensitivity, and their complexity. And as the plot thickens, and takes unexpected curves, we find we worry for their safety and keep turning pages (or listening attentively) just to ensure we learn their fates. There is a great deal of suspense, of caring and of sadness – as there is in real life.

It’s been awhile since I’ve designated a book a “MUST READ,” but The Calamity Club absolutely is one! Whether you read or listen, I guarantee you will be taken in and love it!

Lula Dean’s Little Library of Banned Books by Kirsten Miller

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Ronnie can’t believe his luck. After waiting for Lindsay for hours in the town square, she’s finally come to join him. Even better, she has asked him to join her in a bit of a prank. You see, Lula Dean, nobody’s favorite, self-righteous snoop in the town, has set up a little box of “free” library books in front of her home. While she had led a crusade against “dangerous” books being available in the schools and the library of their small, Georgian town, she has decided to establish a more “appropriate library” for the townspeople to use. Unbeknownst to Lula, however, Lindsay has what she feels might be a creative solution to the problem of Lula’s book banning. However, she has no idea what she might have unleashed on the town from this little prank…

What starts off as vignettes about the various characters who borrow the books Lula has left out in her library evolves into a more connected, linear story about a Southern town afflicted by its sordid past. The town has celebrated, with a huge statue in its town square, its deep roots in the enslavement of Black folks and in the extremist groups fostered there. Some of the characters here feel threatened by any sort of change, any progression toward inclusiveness; on the other hand, there are many who seek to move on from their history, to do better. The message here is clear: those who read, open their minds, and learn about others, become more empathetic to the plight of those who have been marginalized for whatever reason.

This is a clever novel, with amusing characters as well as a surprisingly complex plot. My only complaint is that the ending is, once again, a bit too neat. Perhaps it is the hope of the author that by reading this book, one will open their minds and learn that doing so will lead to happy endings. A sweet message if perhaps a bit naive. (I may just be cynical, given our world right now, though.)

The Kennedy Debutante by Kerri Maher

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Kick Kennedy has just arrived in London and she has immediately fallen in love. The city’s deep history, the rich cultural opportunities – not to mention the exciting nightlife where she has quickly befriended most of London’s young elite – has given her a feeling she’s never quite gotten from the privileged but stuffy social gatherings back home in the US. And even though her family is most important to her, especially given their notoriety and their Kennedy connections, she finds herself thinking she would like to stay here, even as things are heating up with Hitler’s greedy ambition and the threat of war hanging over everyone’s head. To complicate matters, she has also become enamored of a particular young man, who has captured her eye. If only their religions did not interfere with their being accepted as a couple. So many challenges she must face!

This novel not only provides a window into the Kennedy family via Kathleen (“Kick”) Kennedy’s life and struggles, but it also gives a palpable sense of the anxiety among the younger set in London pre- and during WWII. Her father, Joe Kennedy quickly lost favor as the ambassador to England when he remained staunchly anti-war, even in the face of the rising threat the Nazis posed to England and to Europe. Kick, as a family member who was more in touch with the younger generation who were mostly for defending England and standing up to the Nazi attempt to take over all of Europe, had a more realistic view of the situation. And while her father did not listen to her initially, he gradually learned to trust his wise and socially adept daughter. While this was certainly a coming of age of a young debutante, it also was great historical fiction for a time that was complicated, scary, and a challenging backdrop for romance.

It also provided insight into the conflict between Catholics and Protestants at the time (and continuing to today). Particularly in England, where the chasm between the two religions was so deeply-rooted and had affected their royal families, nobles, and so many others, it was a source of trauma for those who might wish to marry into the other religion. The Catholics, believing that if they deserted their church, they’d be excommunicated, abandoned by their families, and considered damned for all eternity, this was a heavy load for true believers. And Protestants, who made up a larger swath of the population, believed that if they were to betray their church, they would be shaming their families, culture, and their history as well.

I felt I learned so much from this book – and it was a well-written and engaging story to boot! Highly recommend for my fellow fans of historical fiction!

Queens of Crime by Marie Benedict

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Dorothy Sayers is tired of men taking control of everything. In spite of the literary accomplishments of her female colleagues, they are being completely minimized by the men who are initiating the new Detection Club. a club for mystery authors seeking to heighten the prestige of the genre. Well, Dorothy will not take this lying down! After her little gathering of five women authors she feels have proven themselves worthy of being included, she hatches a plan to have them inducted into this club as well. Nevertheless, the men continue to ignore, even denigrate them. What if they, as writers of murder mysteries themselves, solve an actual, real-life murder mystery? Perhaps then their male peers will take them seriously. This, however, turns out to be more complicated than she ever imagines.

If you’re looking for a bit of morbid fun, this book is for you! The “Queens” as they call themselves, find themselves deep in the mire of a brutal murder that could potentially stump even them. As they delve deeper and deeper into the details, they learn to work together, to appreciate each other’s strengths and support each other through their weaknesses. We learn that everyone appears to have some sort of secret, some part of themselves that they would prefer be kept hidden from the public eye. They are vulnerable, because particularly at the time this story takes place, the interval between the great wars, women had little in the way of independence and relied not only on their “upstanding” reputations but also, of course, on the men around them. Even women with means. Even women who were as famous for their brilliance and talent as this authors were.

The characters themselves, as well as the plot, hold intrigue, humor, sensitivity, and surprise – keeping at least this reader completely engaged. Once again, Marie Benedict has done it!

The Tennis Partner by Abraham Verghese

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Dr. Abraham Verghese is a senior medical school faculty member and an infectious disease specialist in El Paso, TX. He is also a huge tennis fan, having played the sport since he was quite young. Upon meeting one of his new medical students, David Smith, who not only is smart and motivated to learn, but has also played professional tennis, Verghese feels he’s met his match, so to speak. Finally, here is someone he has something in common with! Moreover, he sees his own loneliness reflected in the face of this new friend, and he understands that they might be a support for each other. As Verghese learns more about David, and specifically about his addictions, he sees that this relationship may be more challenging than he imagines.

This autobiographical work by Verghese is an emotional and moving portrait of what it feels like to be close to someone who has an addiction as well as to be blindsided by it. While Verghese has clinical experience (albeit in a different area of medicine) and as well as deep compassion and understanding, he cannot help being sucked in to the dramatic ups and downs of his friend’s disease. Verghese becomes the only true friend David Smith has, the only consistency in David’s chaotic life; on the other hand, he is in the awkward position of really not being David’s peer as well as having quite a bit of stress of his own (his dissolving marriage, his worry for his own two young sons). Nevertheless, we watch as he becomes the friend that David comes to rely upon and he finds himself caught up in David’s world.

I did find the story a bit repetitive and predictable, although that may be a function of addiction itself. Many sufferers of addiction bounce in and out of rehab, feeling the low of needing to detox and the high of coming out feeling rehabilitated. While there are many who succeed in remaining sober, it is a daily if not hourly struggle – and the repetition seen here is likely a reflection of this. It may be that one has to convince others even as they are convincing themselves that THIS time will be their time to make it. That seemed to be the case with David – and Verghese may have tried to believe it each and every time. I imagine it is the hardest thing to overcome.

If you’re interested in gaining a deeper understanding of the terrible disease of addiction, if you’d like to learn how loneliness and abandonment can impact an addiction, this book is for you. [Also, be ready for much in the way of tennis details. If you hate the sport, this may not be for you!]